*They’re coming for my righteous ass!*”
“…save yourself *dramatic pause*”
various easily avoidable catastrophes have ensued and will continue to do so
I know you were thrown into this
like right in the thick of it
Let’s provide context
Here we have one amazing strong principled sacrificial dedicated faithful passionate righteous individual
For the sake of discussion, let’s call this person “she”
She stands up for what she believes in
She’s opinion is very valuable
She is the bulwark of beauty
The breathing icon of ideas
She is affronted by the contrast between your viewpoint and hers
She claims to believe in her principles
But I think she just believes in herself
And the only way she can validate her belief is to tell it to the people who will assuredly retaliate with their own egotistic perspectives
I can justify my life!
I’m a martyr!
selfish. Don’t die for yourself.
I don’t dislike idealists
I just wish they’d be more down to earth
what this passionate principled defender misses is the value of shrewdness
after all, once you’ve established your foundation, why not let your ideas do the thinking for you?
If abstractions are realer to someone than the people around them, will not that person consider it his/her prerogative to speak
And not simply regardless of the context & consequences
But even before taking those things into account?
And I’m not an opponent of dialogue
But I’m skeptical of an idealist’s conscious ability to keep from conflating idea and ego
If ego is in the room, a few things happen (though not exclusively):
The honest people in the room are undermined and disrespected
The people claiming to be insulted on behalf of the ideas are the only ones insulting the ideas
The only good reason to be in the room exited when ego entered
Chill, just let-
I wanna say-
That’s a good rule of thumb right
good senior quote too
Hold on! Sheesh!
Where do you find all of these opinions?!
Did God speak to you!? Can I have his contact information?
I like you
You got spunk
People like you make people like me better people
Sometimes I can’t recall my standard, and people like you remind me of what is best and how I should act
I appreciate that, and I admire your spine
I have some advice
please, God, stop talking*
you can talk in a moment I just need to work through this for both of us
Reserve your dialogue for the people who deserve it, who listen
Those are the people who want to change for the better and learn, and then repeat that process at a larger scale
And just as the people you convince with your ideas can change themselves positively, then change their family positively, then their community and so on
in the same way, see the change in yourself before you try to change them
You’re not a scientist, and you’re not a motivational speaker.
You’re a guinea pig
Above all else, if you’re gonna get lost in the cosmos abstracta
Leave your ego behind
Otherwise, dialogue contorts into the equivalent of a screaming match between a brick wall and a Will Ferrel character
Truth is enough to have at stake without adding self-esteem and social status to the mix
Here’s how you can know whether you care about the right things
Who do you talk to?
Stop providing ammunition for the fickle
You might find yourself becoming the people you attract with your ill-considered opinions
The people you talk to will tell you the true extent to which you pursue ideas honestly
without even opening their mouths
They undoubtably will
*This article is not directed at anyone specific. It is, in fact, directed at an idea.